I get known as a “slut” all the time. My friend Ashley calls us a slut like it’s my name: “Slut!” The Frisky staff calls each other sluts when we divulge our sexual escapades. Internet commenting trolls call me a slut fairly regularly (along with a “bitch”, and a c-word, and lots of other foul things). I call myself a slut, like, say, a week ago after i connected with a dude around the first date. Lots of 20-something women are used to being known as a slut in some area of their lives, in each and every situation from “haha, just kidding” with this friends or (cool) co-workers to more severe areas, like when it’s hurled at us by a catcaller. “Slut” is among those female-centric words – like “bitch,” like “feminist” – that may mean so many things it almost means nothing anymore. Except, as it happens, during sex. My brain is my biggest sex organ. Around I love the tactile and the tangible, the simplest way to show me on would be to whisper really filthy words within my ear, produce an erotic story to see, or talk dirty. For as politically correct when i may be outside of the bedroom, nothing offends me in coitus. The c-word? The p-word? Slut? Modifiers to people words are fine, too: ignorant slut, lazy slut, spoiled slut. The more creative the greater!
But I mentioned with a friends how hot it is when guys talk dirty to me and can turn out some women really, really hate it.
One friend said she didn’t mind being called “naughty” or “bad” during sex, “there’s something about the word slut particularly that might take me out of the moment.” In other words, dirty talk is OK but the word “slut” goes too much. Another friend said she would never want to be called a “slut” during sex or other kind of dirty talk involving curse words. “I’m very sensitive to words,” she explained. And still another friend said it would really bother her if a boyfriend called her a “slut” in bed, but she accustomed to hook up with a guy she did not have feelings for who called her a “slut” (in edition to other dirty talk) and she or he was fine with it. The only issue, she said, is “he basically couldn’t come unless he was stringing together a thousand different filthy words,” she said. “It got old eventually.”
Could it be that some women are so used to the disrespectful, belittling connotations of “slut” outside of the bedroom that it’s unpalatable for them to hear it inside the bedroom? Could it be impossible for many women to consider words that would sting if used in actual life and switch them inverted in fantasy play? Why, then, am I Comfortable with it?
Knowing what’s wrong/forbidden/outre ultimately makes me more drawn to it and in turn, it turns me on. Sometimes I wonder when the more taboo something is, the more sexual it might be to me. Even if I do not exactly understand what the definition of “slut” means anymore, I understand I am not one and I know I’m one in just the right doses that it gets me all upset whenever a man whispers it in my experience. (Obviously, it must are available in the best packaging.)
I have no idea why I’m wired by doing this. All I understand is I am wired by doing this so when you are looking at dirty talk in bed that would be inappropriate in lots of occasions up out of bed, I’m apparently within the minority. Though given just how much it turns me on, I can not imagine why!
Ladies, do you like being called a “slut” in bed? Why or why don’t you? And gentlemen, have you ever called a woman a “slut” during sex? What went down? If you’ve never said it before, why haven’t you?