s there anything more visceral than the words “hate” and “fuck?” Each triggers a definite primitive heat that arises within the chest (well, perhaps within the groin for “fuck”). Without even having the word defined or perhaps a? personal experience with hate fucking, the two words together quickly produce a visual that makes its meaning very clear. Hate fucking is expressing hate or anger towards another person through the act of sex. It titillates that odd area of the human brain where the infliction of pleasure and pain meet, though the act of hate-fucking isn’t just so seedy or scary. It’s possible to hate fuck in a number of contexts, the ugliest being literally, fucking someone you hate, or using sex to leave anger and aggression. Like a partner once viciously put it: “I wish to put my hate in the human body.” HOT.
In more relatable terms, think about shagging that ex who you never forgave for stomping all over your heart. You despise him for that emotional pain he put you through, but damn, the sex was crazy good. Imagine fueling all that lingering anger into reducing and dirty in bed, every thrust saying “Fuck you too.” And those tiny bite marks? Finally got the last word. HOT.
Hate-fucking may even drop after a horrible fight together with your current partner like a type of makeup sex. Not long ago i got into the dumbest fight with my boyfriend. I wanted to help keep a dog Betta fish at his apartment because my cat would surely gobble poor people guy up if I kept one at mine, but my boyfriend wasn’t really feeling the entire pet fish idea. Sad and pissed that my boyfriend couldn’t commit to the most low-maintenance of pets, we got right into a heated argument. I yelled, he yelled. And suddenly? Our clothes were off, my nails were leaving scratch marks down his back and also the Betta fish was forgotten within the haze of hot, furious fucking. When we were finished, our laughable feud was too. This is what I call “the romantic hate fuck.” In the crossroads between hate fucking and making love, the romantic hate fuck is makeup sex that walks the BDSM tightrope enabling you to escape your anger inside a healthy way. Some things don’t need to be talked to death, and fucking someone until you’re no more mad sure is a lot more fun. One minute you’re screaming about who would look after a dog fish, the next minute you’re bent over a bouncy workout ball getting lovingly spanked. HOT.
Now, of course there are a few items to keep in mind if your are to engage in hate fucking, particularly if you’ll get kinky by using it:
1. Hate-fuck someone you trust to respect your boundaries. Hate-fucking should really never involve fucking somebody that is going to treat you like shit and abuse your vulnerability. You might be mad at them, hell, you may even literally hate them, but you should still trust that they will respect your physical and emotional desires while you’re hate-fucking. (And the other way around, of course.)
2. Be cautious with boozing before hate-fucking. A tequila-soaked hate-fuck could lead to a hate-fuck hangover and that’s a real drag. Hate-fucking is best approached having a clear head.
3. Have a safe word. If you are likely to tread into BDSM territory with anyone, whether it’s a long-term partner or a one-time hookup, it’s important to have a safe word. Regardless of how mad you are in the person you’re fucking, you’ll still worry about their overall well-being, and then any pain you both experience ought to be consensually decided. You need to make sure you’re both on a single page and one’s not implementing it too much. So create a safeword! “Wombat” is a good example, as yelling something as absurd being an Australian marsupial while tangled up and plowed adds an element of silliness to offset the filth.
So, the next time the man you’re dating acts as an idiot and you wish to grab him by the shirt, go ahead! Then pull him in for an in-depth kiss and a firm bite on his bottom lip, and move from there. Sometimes, the easiest method to bring an end for an argument is shutting up and fucking the anger away.